• Writing Your Own Script: The Role of the Parent in the Gifted Child’s social Development

  • Introduction

  • Chpater 1: Backdrop: What should You Know About the Gifted Child

  • Chapter 2: Setting the Scene: Understanding What Friendship Means to Gifted Children

  • Chapter 3: Casting: Finding the Other Players

  • #Chapter 4: Directing: Where do Parents Fit In?

  • #Chapter 5: Showtime: Applying What You Know

  • #Chapter 6: Reviews: Raspberries and Applause

  • One of the issues with which parents of gifted children wrestle endlessly is the question of friendship. Do their children have enough friends? What’s wrong with them if they don’t? Who thinks they don’t have a lot? How many are “enough” and who decides that, anyway? Who should they be friends with? Why? Why aren’t they satisfied with the friends they have? And how can they make more—and how can they keep them?

  • Who is the Gifted Child?

  • Asynchronous Development

  • Twice-exceptionalities

  • Intensity and Dabrowski’s Overexcitabilities (OEs)

  • Introversion and Extraversion

  • Unsusual Interests

  • Why is finding friends so complicated?

  • The Need to Belong

  • Impact of Loneliness and feeling “other” on social interactions

  • Scoping Out the Possibilities

  • Where do we look for other players?

  • What is my role as a parent?

  • How does a parent know they are doing the right thing?

  • How much parental intervention is enough/too much?

  • Scenarios and Troubleshooting

  • How Homeschooling Provides Opportunities

  • Dealing with Critics

  • Looking at Outcomes

  • Science of Relationships

  • Definition of Terms

  • Resources (National, state, local support groups)

  • Psychomotor

  • Sensual

  • Imaginational

  • Intellectual

  • Emotional

  • Developmental Stages of Friendship

  • What does my child want?

  • Do I really understand or am I making assumptions?

  • Is what my child says he wants consistent with what I know to be his abilities and limitations? Is it consistent with societal expectations? Are there ways to make discrepancies less of an issue?

  • Are my child’s expectations of social interactions realistic? And how are those expectations being formed? Can I help them develop a broad and nuanced view of social interactions

  • Are my child’s expectations of social interactions realistic? And how are those expectations being formed? Can I help them develop a broad and nuanced view of social interactions

  • Activities, meetups, volunteerin, classes

  • Mentors

  • Overcoming Skepticism

  • Unbalanced Relationships

  • Geography: Will travel for friends

  • Have my people call your people

  • Peer pressure: Yours and Theirs

  • What is “scaffolding” How is it different from helicopter parenting?

  • What if my child doesn’t want my help? (or resists)

  • When you are your own worst critic

  • What do the experts have to say?

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